What to Write in Sympathy Messages

Sympathy Messages for When You Don’t Know What to Write

  1. I can’t think of anything I can say that will make everything better. I do want you to know that I love you and that I am available to talk.
  2. I know that I can’t fix the pain you feel. I want you to know I feel for you, I’m thinking of you, and I’d do anything to help you.
  3. I could not possibly understand what you are feeling. I want to send you my deepest sympathy. I’m willing to listen.
  4. I know that even though you have a loss, you still have some great memories. I hope those memories will bring give you comfort.
  5. I struggle for the right words to give you support. Please accept my condolences.
  6. There’s nothing I can say to help you in your time of sorrow. I know that you’ll always carry ___________ in your heart.
  7. I wish I could express to you all the appropriate words. All I can say is that I am sorry for your loss and that I want you to know that you mean a great deal to me.
  8. Please accept my condolences to you during this difficult time. I want you to know that you’re in my prayers.
  9. I know there’s nothing I can say or do to fix things.  Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
  10. I wish I could do more than give you my sympathy. Please let me know how I can help. Know that I am here if you need anything, and I love you.

Suggestions for Sympathy Card Messages

  1. Don’t try to tell the person how he/she feels. For example, “I know you probably feel awful and mad at the world.”  It’s best to assume that you don’t know how the person feels.
  2. Don’t write anything about your own problems.  If you lost someone once, you can mention something that helped you. Question the purpose of bringing up your own experiences in the sympathy message. Save stories for when you talk to the person.
  3. Don’t ever bring up a debt or something that was borrowed of yours. If someone borrowed something or owes you money, be decent enough to wait a few weeks before asking for it from the family. Unless, of course, you think they are going to sell it or claim it as their own. Even then, consider thinking of the money or borrowed item as a sympathy gift.
  4. Don’t include judgments from God such as, “It was his time to go, it’s all for the best, or he lived a good life and he’s in heaven.” You won’t know what is going through the surviving person’s mind, and you are not God.
  5. Always stay positive. An untactful sympathy card message that is positive is better than a negative message that is eloquently written.
  6. When in doubt, make your message shorter, not longer. The more you write, the more chance you have to offend someone. Brief is good. Stay to the point.
  7. If you offer to help someone, knowing they will have a difficult time, tell the person how you want to help. This prevents the person from asking you to do something you don’ t actually want to do. Also, the likelihood that the person will actually call you for help is low, so tell when you will call them.

Words of Sympathy

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What to Write in a Sympathy Card Message

Sympathy card messages can be the most difficult card messages to write. The blank spot in the card can intimidate as it stares back at you. Both you and the card sit there saying nothing, waiting for the other to start the conversation. Here you will find examples of sympathy messages that you can use for the blank spot in your card.

Knowing someone who is going through loss can be difficult, and figuring out what to say to that person can be the most difficult part. You have options. You can write something encouraging, meaningful, or supportive. Make your message sincere and thoughtful. Use the following examples to help you figure out the best sympathy card message you can write.

Examples of Sympathy Messages

Sympathy card messages for a death of a loved one can be the most difficult to write.

  1. Those we love who pass away live on in us through our memories and our character.
  2. I am sorry about your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  3. I don’t know what you’ll need in the coming days, but I’ll be checking in on you.
  4. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family at this time of grieving.
  5. Please accept my deepest condolences. I am praying for strength and comfort for you at this time.
  6. The pain of loss is something that none can escape, but you don’t have to go through it alone. I’m available any time.
  7. It’s difficult to lose someone close. If there is any way I can make things easier for you please let me know. Expect me to call to check on you in the next week.
  8. I am praying for you to get through this time with the peace that comes from the knowledge that God loves you and that He will take care of you.
  9. I am sending you this card to let you know that I am thinking of you. I am sorry for your loss. Continue reading “What to Write in a Sympathy Card Message”

Sympathy Messages for Pets

When a pet dies, it can hurt just as much as when a person dies.  The reason for this is that people can form strong relationships with their pets, and the feelings of loss for that relationships create a need to grieve just like with the loss of a family member or friend.

Use these examples of pet loss sympathy messages to show your condolences when someone loses a pet.  Make the message as personal as you can and mention some positives about the pet in addition to using the following pet sympathy messages.

  1. There will never be another _____ like _____.  He/she was an awesome pet that I always enjoyed being around when I was hanging out at your place.  He/she was one of a kind. I am sorry for your loss.
  2. I know how much it can hurt when you lose a pet.  Pet’s can provide you with friendship, fun and entertainment.  I am sorry for your loss.
  3. Dogs truly are man’s best friend.  I am sincerely sorry for the loss of your best friend.
  4. A lot of people may not realize how big of a deal it is when a dog dies.  If they have owned a really cool dog like yours, then they would know it is a big deal.   I am sorry for your significant loss.
  5. I am sorry to hear that your pet has died. If you start to feel lonely and want that sound of barking in your house again, you can take my pain in the butt dog off my hands.
  6. I am sorry to hear that the cute and furry member of your family has passed away.  He/she will remain in our memories as a good dog/cat and a very loved and missed friend and family member.
  7. I am sorry you found your fish floating upside down.  I hope his burial at sea in the toilet went smoothly.  I also hope he has a nice trip to his next life in the city sewer system.
  8. Even though I don’t like snakes/spiders, I can understand that you enjoyed your pet.  I am sorry for the loss of enjoyment you must be experiencing.  One good thing is that I can come over to your house now without being freaked out.
  9. If dogs do go to heaven, I am sure yours will be waiting on you there.  He/she was a good dog.
  10. I am sorry that you lost your furry friend.  He/she was an adorable sweetheart. My condolences to you and your family.
  11. I am sorry you lost your pet.  Since I know you will be missing him/her, I will be calling you soon to check on you to see how you are doing. We should get together soon.

Pet Loss Sympathy Messages

What to Write When Someone’s Pet Dies

The loss of a pet can be as devastating to a person as the death of a family member or friend. Many people treat their pets like family and are hurt by the loss just like a family member death.

This makes it difficult to write a sympathy message for the loss of a pet just like a person. See the death of the pet as an opportunity for you to be creative and think about the type of pet. Make the message tailored to that pet.

Empathize with the person losing the pet. People put a great deal of investment of time, energy, and love toward their pets. This can be a truly difficult time for a pet owner when feelings of loss become overwhelming.  Also, lifestyle changes will occur as the pet is no longer needing attention.

Sympathy Messages for Death of a Pet

Sometimes you will need general pet sympathy card messages. You can use these to help you get your message started, or leave these the way they are.

  1. I am sorry about your pet dying. I know it was special and became part of your family.
  2. All good things come to an end, and I guess that even means good pets. I am sorry for your loss.
  3. Some animals are extra special, and when we lose them, we feel a real loss. I’m sending my condolences to you for the loss of your pet.
  4. I don’t know whether I can say anything to make you feel better after losing your pet, but I would like to say I’m sorry for your loss.
  5. Some people don’t think that losing a pet is a big deal, but I know that it can be difficult. Pets can be great friends and even close family members. Please accept my condolences.
  6. I am sorry to hear that you lost your pet. Feel free to come by and take my pain in the butt pet any time you’d like to borrow him.

Sympathy Messages for Death of a Dog

Use these sympathy card messages for dogs.

  1. When they say a dog is man’s best friend, it’s easy to understand why it’s so difficult to lose a great dog. Losing your best friend is difficult.
  2. There is something special about dogs’ ability to bond with their owners. That relationship can be difficult to lose. I am sorry you lost your dog.
  3. Life is too short for dogs. We get to watch them as puppies all the way through old age. A dog will give it’s entire life to pleasing us. My condolences for the loss of your dog.
  4. They’re cute, funny, happy, protective, sweet, and understanding. What more could you ask from a pet or even a person? Your dog was all of these things. I am sorry for your loss.
  5. They broke the mold when your dog died. There will never be another one like him. I am sorry.

Sympathy Messages for Death of a Cat

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