Yes, your gift sends the message that you care and are thinking of the family and friends who are grieving. There are numerous reasons people choose not to have a service, but the most common reason is the request of the deceased. When families honor that request and do not have a service they are still grieving. Your gift of sympathy provides support to them at a very important time. Funerals and memorial services although often very sad, provide family and friends a way to honor the memory and life of the deceased. Without a service to receive that support, the family is still very much in need of your message of condolence and support.