If you want to send a more personal message of support, then sending a sympathy gift from yourself following a group gift is just fine. You may have a closer relationship with the bereaved than others in the group. Acknowledging this relationship with a gift just from you lets your friend know you care. That is truly the message you want to send to a friend who is grieving. Sometimes people feel they can’t do enough for friends who are grieving and sending a sympathy gift after a gift of flowers or a group memorial contribution offers support and comfort when someone really needs it.